Are you sabotaging yourself?
A few months ago self sabotage was brought to my attention. I had just quit a miserably dreadful financial job and was so lost in life due to losing my soul in the midst of society standards and American culture. Randomly by fate I came across a book by Tara Bliss & Rachel Magahy called ‘Spirited’. They spoke of sabotaging ourselves and how it hinders our journey in life. We subconsciously do this to ourselves because deep down we may fear the change, work, rejection or whatever may come along on the journey to achieve our dreams and purpose in life. After this strange subconscious act was brought to my attention, I realized I was sabotaging myself almost everyday and had been doing it for years without even knowing. After figuring out my dreams and soul purpose in life, I reflected on what had been keeping me from achievement these last few years. I made a list of all the ways I was self sabotaging and read it quite often to keep these acts fresh in my mind. I’m not going to lie, it’s not easy to let go of them even after the realization of what these acts of sabotage are. The one thing that has kept me going on the journey of conquering the sabotage of my own dreams is one thing:
What a shame it would be if my dreams and purpose weren’t fulfilled because of me… not society, obstacles, or naysayers… but my own ego.
Stop trying to defeat yourself. In the end you are your best supporter and biggest critic. Stop being so critical; you know the amazing lengths of your soul.
Peace & Love!
As previously stated in my last post, I have chronic lack of motivation… (sigh)… BUT I really want to kick 2014′s ass hard core. Though I’ve been out of school for years now I’m attempting to give myself a crash course in taking life by the balls and actually LIVING! Everyday we breath these breaths of life and go though the motions but so many people are not actually living. As walking corpses we’ve let society convince us that this is how we’re ‘supposed’ to be living. Money, vanity, material mass consumption, and technology have been substituted to mask our lives with happiness. Shame on us for thinking material possessions will give us happy lives. Until we realize who we are and what our souls want out of live, we will never be truly happy or actually live. I’m starting with my dreams in hopes of them telling me more about myself.
I’m a dreamer, believer, and lover of the world. At times too obnoxiously optimistic for my own good. Dreamers are such complex and misunderstood people. Most of society views us as children who never grow up, but dreamers are the ones who have changed the world. What are your dreams? Write them down somewhere that you can read them weekly. Your dreams will show a lot about your soul and what you truly want out of life, not what society wants of you.
Keep dreamin’ beautiful souls!
Peace & Love,
I haven’t written in quite some time, but it’s one of my goals for the new year to keep posting. Now that we’re in the second week of the new year I suppose I’ll touch base on resolutions. I recently read an article on entrepreneur.com about the statistics of resolutions. A study shows that only 4% of Americans actually follow through with their resolutions for the new year. This single statistic has urged in wanting to actually complete all of my goals and dreams I’ve created for 2014. If you know me personally, then you know I lack in motivation and excel in procrastination so this year will most definitely be a challenge for me. The first two weeks of the year have been somewhat of a success for me though. Now that I’ve actually come to terms with my flaws that are holding me back from getting things done I feel like I can complete the goals I’ve created for the year.
The article I read pointed out that the reason we aren’t completing the resolutions we set because we are trying to conquer all of our goals at once and it becomes overwhelming. Taking smaller steps and breaking down your resolutions into smaller goals will help achieve the big picture. As part of my resolution I’m on a spiritual journey to enlightenment for 2014. Making small changes so far has been keeping me on track. What are your dreams and goals for the year? If you haven’t made any yet, listen to your soul and take the time to live it out.
My mantra for 2014: LIVE OUT YOUR SOUL!
In the spirit of Halloween I thought I’d share this beautifully haunting artist. I recently found Soley and I don’t know what more to say other than girlfriend is amazing! She’s haunting and spooky and I don’t know whether I should cry or hide under the bed when I hear her music. The melodies make me feel like I’m stuck in a Tim Burton film, scary but enchanting all at the same time.
Listen to her here:
It’s that time of year again. The days get shorter, the air gets cooler, and our faces start to crack. Those of us with dry skin will begin to raid drugstore and Sephora shelves like a natural disaster is on it’s way and we’re in search of water and batteries. (Yes it’s that serious.) Which leaves me with this question… is your beauty cabinet winter ready? Long gone are the days of summer when all we needed was a cleanser and sunscreen. Winter requires a bit more time and effort to get that dewy glow we all love, so I’ve put together a survival kit to get you through these up and coming chilly skin destroying months.
Use a Cream Cleanser: Most gel and foam cleansers have a tendency to dry out your skin. This is not so much of a problem in the heat of the summer when oily skin by lunch time is given. I use good ole trusty Ponds Cold Cream. It works like a charm and leaves your skin feeling super soft and hydrated without feeling greasy.
Brush Away Dead Skin: Of course even as much time and moisturizing effort we put into our skin this winter some of us will skill get flaky skin. My favorite exfoliating method is with a Clarisonic Mia brush. It’s deep cleansing brush gets any gunk that might have been missed with your cleanser, and it brushes away dead flaky skin without tearing up your skin. It’s safe to use daily and you will notice a more youthful glow after only a few times of use.
Toning Hydration: Toners are amazing little magicians in a bottle when it comes to getting radiant skin. I think a lot of people over look this step during their skincare regimen, but it’s extremely vital for glowing radiant skin. In the hotter months I use a moisturizing toner from Clarins that works like a charm. Of course those who have dry skin may want to try a toning and hydrating mask instead of a liquid toner. With a mask you’re getting the same toning experience with deep moisture added as a plus.
24Hrs Crack Free: In the summer we are franticly blotting our skin before we even take our lunch break. Opposite story these days, we’re all just hoping our makeup hasn’t turned into a flaky mess. Dealing with a cracked up face in the middle of the day is not as easy as taking out a few blotting papers. Most of us can’t exactly slather on some cream at lunch because now how would our face makeup look? (a damn mess) Let’s just nip this thing out before we even head out for the day and make our lives a lot easier. Choose a super moisturizing cream like Korres Rose Moisturizer. It’s not super thick and gunky like a lot of creams for dry skin, and it smells amazing. For a little extra power add a few drops of facial oil to the cream before applying to your face. Choosing one like Marula will also give you anti-aging benefits (double whammy!).
Chapped Killer: The last thing that makes a great addition to your outfit is chapped up cracked up lipstick. It’s super gross and is only socially acceptable for retirement homes. Taking care of your lips at night will help you kill those chapped peeling lips. A few nights a week use a lip scrub to exfoliate your lips. Just like everything else on your body, your lips need to be brushed away of dead skin. Whether you make your own or use a store bought, it’s a must for keeping lips smooth in the winter. Keep a lip treatment by your bed and use it every chance you get. Put it by your phone so you will always remember to use if before you go to bed, when you wake up in the middle of the night, and when getting up in the morning.
Butter Up That Body: We all tend to focus on our faces because of the frantic fear of wrinkles and bypass the rest of our body. With all that sunscreen and self tanner we use in the summer it’s hard for our skin to get flaky and dry (unless sunburned). Don’t forget about the rest of your body in the winter; it wrinkles just like your face. Body butter tends to be much thicker than your general bottled moisturizer which makes it perfect for the chilly months. Put it on right after you’ve dried off from your shower or bath to lock in that moisture. Be sure to moisturize at morning and night; just like your face.
You know you’re getting old when the things you wore as a child are back in style. I guess we can’t complain since the 90′s were arguably an amazing era to grow up in… am I right? We had great tunes, great shows, & whimsical grunge neon style. I was inspired to do this post when I found that fuzzy green sweater from Topshop. I had one exactly like this in elementary school same color and everything. Then when I saw the holographic purse (also owned one similar to this) from Nasty Gal I knew this was something I had to do. So in honor of our childhood and the celebration of a comeback, why don’t we all turn up some Spice Girls and take a trip down memory lane.
Jeans & Sunnies UrbanOutfitters- Shoes & Sweater TopShop- Bag, Ring, Necklace & Board NastyGal